I screwed up my wedding and still regret.......?

I half assed my entire wedding because I wanted it to be overwith. I made a scene because I thought my husband was doing cocaine in the bathroom, a huge scene. The food was late because I got a friend to do it, we didn't have enough food. My 8 month old was very sick with fever and vomitting, we left early. Our first anniversary my husband was bedridden with a horrible tooth ache and we spent the evening in the dentist office paying emergency price. What the hell?????? Can it get better or are we doomed? Are these little signs telling us to get the hell away from each other?

I screwed up my wedding and still regret.......?
Don't see those as signs of doom, I think they're signs that God is testing you early on to see if you both have what it takes to make it. Things can always get better, don't ever think things could get worse, or they will!!





It sounds like the wedding started the whole issue here. I suggest planning a vow renewal on next anniversary, put your wedding dress back on, do it all over again, but this time, BE THOROUGH!!! I didn't have enough food at my wedding either, hubby and I didn't get ANYTHING to eat except wedding cake, which had to be repaired before the wedding since it slid in the back of delivery van and crushed one whole side of it. Plus, 3 of the 4 air conditioners went out in the hall, in July, and I was wearing a long sleeved silk wedding dress that weighed 48 lbs. Plus, I was 5 months pregnant!We didn't let that ruin our day, we even stayed and cleaned up!





Your marriage is what you and your hubby make of it. So what if it started badly? Thats not a sign of doom!! If you love each other, then thats all you need.....If you want to, take my suggestion of a vow renewal, wear your dress, and have a small quiet dinner for close family and friends this time. Do a BBQ or something..........I bet things look up after that for sure...GL;)
Reply:just colm down later in life yall will all lagh at it u just gat to dill with it trust me my aunt's was realy bad some won nocked over the cake on her lap and he spilt shapanre all over is tux and now when thay look back on it thay lagh lol
Reply:Sounds like you cause a lot of your own problems ie: I half assed my entire wedding......I made a scene.....the food was late because I got a friend to do it, etc. Only you can answer if you are doomed in the relationship - but it doesn't sound like either one of you are trying very hard to make it work.
Reply:What's going to destroy your marriage is you focusing on all the negatives..... just relax and enjoy each other.
Reply:Look at it this way...miarrage is for better or worse...you're just doing the worst part first...it'll get better eventually
Reply:Not at all. My wedding was far from what others may consider perfect. He almost forget to say "I Do" until I nudged him to pay attention. He was sooooo nervous and he stepped on my dress so it almost came right down. We got over it. I suggest that if you are worried, try renewing your vows. It might help you feel better about the situation because you can make it go more smoothly and you can do it really quick and easy and inexpensive and just the 2 of you.
Reply:Not necessarily just because bad things happen does not mean that you are not supposed to be with him. You just have to take it in stride. Though it is easier said than done. But you are the only person that can make the decision on who you want to spend the rest of you life with. You will know if you are meant to be together by the way you feel when you Look at him. that's how i know